"At that time, I did a very me thing, which was when I knew I wanted to get a divorce, I did this data collection of talking to adults who had been products of a broken home,” the actress explained.
“Every single one of them said, 'I didn't care that my parents got divorced. That wasn't it….But the fact that they wouldn't speak to each other, that they couldn't both sit at a dinner table for my birthday...' They said that was the most awful thing.”
"You could see they held it with so much hurt and anger,” she continued. “I was like, 'That's what I'm never going to do.' And we really didn't."
Now, over eight years later the couple remain model examples for keeping their blended family dynamic healthy.
Whilst both Gwyneth and Chris have both found long-term relationships with Brad Falchuk and Dakota Johnson respectively, their children; Apple, 19, and Moses, 17, are their focus.
"You know, there’s no book on this,” Gwyneth admitted on a Q&A earlier this year about co-parenting and finding herself as a stepmother to her partner’s two children. “Nobody tells us what to do. And in fact, all of the existing media around what a stepmother is casts us in this evil, villainous light."
"So it’s kind of like trying to avoid land mines. And then you’re going into a family with dynamics. And there’s all kinds of fear around loss and what does this person mean?"
"But for myself, the minute I decided, and fully embodied the idea that my step kids were my kids and I love them just as much and I gave them the same rules and boundaries, and just kind of whole-heartedly went for it, then the easier the whole thing got. And now it’s pretty great."
Who are Chris and Gwyneth’s children?
Apple Blythe Alison Martin was born on May 14, 2004, in London, and her unique name made international headlines.
Gwyneth explained the name during an interview with Oprah when Apple was nine months old, explaining, "Basically it was because, when we were first pregnant, her daddy said one day, if it's a girl I think her name should be Apple, and it just sounded so sweet and it conjures such a lovely picture for me, you know apples are so sweet and they're wholesome and it's biblical and I just thought it sounded so lovely, and then she was born and it became an international outrage, which I found surprising because there are people named Rose or Lily or Ivy or June or lots of pretty nouns."
Now 17, Apple has made headlines for looking like her mum’s mini twin. Currently a Freshman at college, her mum described her as “an eminently nice person,” during an interview with Bustle. “Her values are in the right place.”
Martin and Paltrow welcomed their second child, Moses Bruce Paltrow Martin, on April 8, 2006.
Now 17, the youngest child of Gwyneth and Chris often appears on his parent’s social media. In April 2023, Gwyneth penned a sweet tribute to her son on Instagram in honour of his birthday.
"Happy 17th birthday to the boy that fills my soul up every time I look at him," Gwyneth captioned the selfie of her and her son. "@mosesmartin you are the most exceptional, kind, loving human being. You keep us all laughing with your perfect impressions and you inspire us with your harmonies. I deeply adore you more than you could ever imagine!"