If you can count on one person to take the Met Gala dress code seriously, it’s Sarah Jessica Parker.
Every year she wears something that perfectly honours the exhibit (usually accented with a towering headpiece) because, as she puts, she’s a “stickler for the theme.” So with something as avant-garde as “Rei Kawakubo / Comme des Garçons: Art of the In-Between,” we had no doubt she’d respect the theme in her own creative way.
But we waited and waited and waited for all the celeb red carpet arrivals only to discover SJP was nowhere to be found!
The actress usually arrives alongside her Met Gala buddy, Bravo’s Andy Cohen, but both were unusually absent from the notoriously long staircase. They both made no mention to the annual event on either of their social media pages all day, and according to a source, the actress decided to “skip to stay and work on her HBO series Divorce.”
This article originally appeared on PEOPLE.