How to introduce toys to your partner
Bringing up sex toys to a new partner, or perhaps one you haven't tried them out with can be a nerve-wracking experience - but it doesn't have to be.
Christine suggests, "[setting] aside time outside of sex for a conversation about bringing toys into your play, especially if you’re unsure [of] their stance towards using toys. This leads the way to an open discussion around the topic, so choose a time when your partner/s is feeling relaxed and has the time."
"Keep in mind that reassurance is key. Let your partner know that introducing toys doesn't mean they're being replaced – you're simply expanding your pleasure palette."
"Lastly, remember to be patient and gentle. If your partner seems hesitant, respect their feelings and take it at a pace that feels comfortable for both of you. This is a journey you're embarking on together, so be ready to explore and adapt along the way."
Keeping your toys clean and safe
It's extremely important to consider safety and hygiene when it comes to adult toys. When purchasing a sex toy ensure that you're buying body-safe, medical-grade materials that are non-porous, as they are less likely to hold harmful bacteria.
"As vibrators are used in and around our intimate areas, cleaning them is so important for hygiene purposes but also for [the] care and maintenance of the device, helping prolong the life of your sex toys", adds Christine.
Most toys can be washed with mild soap and warm water, or you can purchase sex toy cleaners that are designed especially for the task. Just ensure to check the ingredients as that will ultimately end up in your body.
"It's important to check what materials your toy is made from as this will differ slightly depending on your vibrator - care instructions are commonly found within the product’s packaging," advises Christine.
The best sex toys for women to buy in 2023
Want to try out some toys for yourself? Below are some of our top picks across a range of different types, categories and styles.
L'Amour D'Abord vibe bundle, $160, Frenchie
Start your journey off strong with two of Frenchie's best-selling vibrators, The Petit Eiffel and Double Entendre. This little pack will give you all of the tools to start with the basics and work your way up.
Lovehoney Rose clitoral suction stimulator, $89.95, Lovehoney
This best-selling suction vibrator from Lovehoney is great for beginners. Made from a ultra soft body safe silicone, it has 10 suction modes to test and try out and is even waterproof to take in the bath or shower with you.
VUSH Muse rabbit vibrator, $135, a-beauty
A rabbit vibrator is always a good toy to try out. Not only does it provide clitoral stimulation but it can be used internally at the same time for dual-action pleasure. It has eight patterns and five different levels of intensities to suit your flow and is even great for adding to your next date night.
VUSH Ella & Dom twist vibrator, $140, Sephora
Feeling a bit more daring? Try out this outrageously shaped vibrator from VUSH that was made in collaboration with MAF's Ella and Dom. This can be used internally or externally and even has a gyrating tip to hit the spot.
Lovehoney Satisfy Me G-Spot silicone dildo, $36.95, Lovehoney
If you prefer penetrative pleasure, a simple dildo like this one from Lovehoney can get exactly where you need it to go. The curved shape can help provide firmer g-spot stimulation and has two ends to choose from.
Soraya Wave rabbit vibrator, $272.65 (usually $359), Lelo
If you love the idea of a rabbit vibrator and are looking for something on the luxury, bougie end - this indulgent wand from Lelo is a top pick. It can reach your G-spot whilst providing clitoral stimulation in a range of patterns and intensities.
Dame Com wand vibrator, $156, Sephora
If comfort is paramount to pleasure then the Dame Com wand is your pick. Its ergonomic shape fits to your body and provides external pleasure in the easiest and most accessible way possible - it can even act as a personal massager if you have a knot in need of some attention.
Wild Secrets Tease wearable vibrator, $139.99, Wild Secrets
Love the idea of doing something a bit out of the box? This wearable vibrator offers a discreet pleasure that allows you to wear it under your clothes for some bold fun. Hand over the control to your partner and revel in the knowledge only you share.
Womanizer Liberty by Lily Allen, $123 (usually $165), Current Body
Made in collaboration with our brit-pop queen Lily Allen, this handy little tool is perfect for on the go pleasure thanks to its small size and discreet design. Enjoy clitoral stimulation with six intensities to choose from, this is great for anyone wanting some simple yet wildly effective.
Le Wand rechargeable massager, $299, THE ICONIC
It doesn't get more classic than a wand vibrator. Popularised by miss Samantha Jones during Sex And The City, these were designed as personal massagers but their alternate uses are for more exciting if you ask us. It has 20 - yes 20 - vibration patterns at 10 different speeds and can be used for up to three hours.
Smile Makers The Tennis Pro, $74.95, THE ICONIC
Made to hit you G-spot in just the right place, the rounded and angled head on this toy from Smile Makers will be a game-changer if you're exploring internal sex toys. Soft rumbly vibrations don't overwhelm the sensitive area and will leave you smiling as the brand implies.
Pleasure plug, $85, My Ilo
So you've tried vaginal pleasure and are wanting to explore something more? This plug from My Ilo is a great place to start and can even vibrate for added pleasure.
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