When news first broke of Selena’s new boyfriend – the fan reactions were varied, to say the least. It’s not that Benny Blanco and Selena Gomez weren’t a great match, it’s just audiences didn’t know a whole lot about the music producer.
But, as the couple continue to post cute insights into their relationship on social media, make sweet public comments to publications about each other, and walk hand in hand at events, it’s clear Selena’s latest relationship is serious. Which is why, we’re answering your most-asked questions about her current relationship and new partner.
Is Selena Gomez in a relationship?
Selena Gomez confirmed she was dating Benny Blanco in December 2023, telling fans online “He is my absolute everything in my heart.”
Since confirming their romance, the pair have shared numerous PDA-filled photos of each other and in April 2024, Benny opened up about the start of their relationship in an interview with the Wall Street Journal.
How did Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco start dating?
“I was the last one to know,” he said of his feelings for Selena. “It’s crazy how your partner could just be sitting there the whole time, right in front of your eyes, and you don’t even notice, and then you have that Clueless moment where you’re like, Wait, I’m in love.”
Benny shared a few more details of how the pair first began dating when he appeared on Kai Cenat’s Twitch stream in November 2024.
“She asked me out. It was crazy, it was crazy,” he said. “She literally asked me—like, we were just talking, and then she said, ‘You wanna get dinner?’ And I went to the dinner, and I had no idea.” Adding that he wasn’t nervous because “I’ve been friends with her for years,” he added: “We’ve been friends for like 10 years plus, maybe 15. I met her when she was like a friend. I met her when she was so much younger.
“We’re close in age, but we were just talking, and then she was like, ‘Oh, let’s go get dinner tomorrow.‘ And I was like, ‘I’m going to this thing with my friends, why don’t you come hang out with me first, then we’ll go link for dinner?
“So we just went and got a drink first, and I didn’t even realise we were on a date. And she was like, ‘I would’ve worn something different to this date.’ And I was like, ‘Wait, what? We’re on a date?’ I had no idea. No idea we were on a date.
“And then she left early because she had to go somewhere to film a video the next day, and then we hung out like two days later, and then I was like, ‘Yo, I think she likes me.’ And then I literally just kissed her, and the rest is history… She’s my best friend.”
What has Selena said about Benny?
Selena herself opened up on her romance for the first time in February 2024, telling Apple 1 Music’s Zane Lowe,” I think it’s really nice to also lean on someone who understands the world that I live in.”
“I’d have to say overall, it’s the safest that I feel. It’s been really lovely and I’ve only grown through it, so it’s awesome.”
Speaking further on their relationship later that year, Selena told Vanity Fair, “We always make sure we’re protecting what we have, but there’s no rules. I want him to always be himself. I always want to be myself.”
“I’ve never been loved this way. He’s just been a light. A complete light in my life. He’s my best friend. I love telling him everything.”
In a new cover story for the Hollywood Reporter, Selena was recently asked why she has allowed the world in on their relationship, despite previously keeping her love life private.
“I guess this is the safest I’ve ever felt in one, and I see a future with this person,” she answered. Describing Benny as the “love of my life,” she admitted being more public about her relationship actually allows them more privacy.
“When you put a little bit out there, people are not as hungry to hunt you down,” she explained. “There’s so much of my relationship people don’t see, that’s just mine.”
What has Benny said about his relationship with Selena?
In November 2024, Benny gave his first sit-down interview about his relationship with Selena and his overall perspective on love, telling People that romance to him is all about being “attentive and listening.”
“I’m a real morning person. It’s my favourite time to spend with Sel, because we both wake up really early. It’s like our moment before the rest of the world wakes up,” he shared, adding that Selena is “a true best friend that I get to do everything in the world with, and every day is the best day of my life.”
The producer also shared that the couple prioritise quality time in their day-to-day relationship, adding, “I go all out for every date. We go all out for each other. One time Sel was like, “Oh, I want to take you on a date.” We drove somewhere and she had rented out a whole botanical garden for me.”
“She also likes something so simple. For Valentine’s Day, I got her Taco Bell, I made her movie-theatre nachos, I found her favourite pickles from Texas and I deep-fried them for her.”
Benny also revealed that in their early relationship, the couple were navigating a long-distance romance, however, they both worked at maintaining their connection through small, thoughtful gestures.
“The first time me and Sel were really going to be long distance for a while, she made a bear that when I pressed its hand, it said, “I miss you so much. You’re going to be okay. I’ll see you when I get back.” She’s very good at gifting. She does the same thing as me: Most of our gifts, we make them for each other.”
What song did Benny Blanco do with Selena Gomez?
While they may have started dating in late 2023, the couple have actually known each other for a long time – with Benny and Selena working on songs together over a decade ago.
In 2015, Selena released ‘Same Old Love,’ which was produced by Stargate and Benny Blanco.
The pair worked together again in 2019 on Selena’s track ‘I Can’t Get Enough,’ both making appearances in the music video and in 2023, Benny once again worked as a producer on Selena’s track ‘Single Soon.
Celebrating Selena’s birthday in July 2024, Benny shared an adorable throwback to the pair’s music video, writing to Instagram, “I used to play a teddy bear in ur music video and now I get to b urs in real life… happy bday bb! i love u!”
Is Justin Bieber friends with Benny Blanco?
Fans were quick to bring up Benny Blanco’s working relationship with Selena Gomez’s ex, Justin Bieber after news of their relationship went public – but it’s clear the ‘drama’ (if there actually was any) is water under the bridge.
Back in 2020, Benny collaborated with Justin on his single ‘Lonely’ – and fans took his comments during an interview on The Zach Sang Show as a ‘swipe’ at Selena, whom he had previously worked with.
“Justin is not one of those, like, cookie-cutter pop artists; you know they’re, like, ‘This is my new single and here’s my makeup line,’” he said during the interview.
Who did Selena Gomez date before Benny Blanco?
While Selena’s most publicised relationship was her on-again-off-again eight-year stint with Justin Bieber, the singer has been linked with several other famous men including Zayn Malik, Dylan O’Brien and Andrew Taggart.
Check out her full dating history, here.
Who has Benny Blanco dated?
Benny on the other hand has successfully kept details of his private life firmly out of the public eye and not much is known about who he has dated in the past.
The musician was linked to English model Elsie Hewitt in 2019 after the pair made a few public appearances together, but the couple quietly ended things.
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