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Ali Oetjen Exclusive: ‘Dear Bullies’

The former Bachelorette pens a letter to her trolls.

Dear Bullies,

Are we in a courtroom where you are the judge?

Sometimes that’s what it feels like, when I want to share my perspective, my message on MY social platform it’s a nerve racking experience to say the least because the jury may simply not like what I’ve got to say and I’ve always got to be prepared for that.

But don’t for a second think you can pass judgement and send me to hell because I’m normally too strong for that. 

Ali oetjen before and after
The original image vs the edited version of a photo Ali was trolled for. (Credit: Instagram)

I understand that we all have a right to our opinions, but the fact is I haven’t come into YOUR courtroom to be judged, I’m in my own safe environment where I’m entitled to share my voice with my friends and network who decide to follow me & you invade it with negativity, non-constructive negativity.

Normally I’m a big enough person to understand that you obviously have your own problems as we all do and you have a harder time in trying to control them, which I understand, but would you please consider other peoples feelings when doing it? Repetitive passing judgement, 1) makes your own mindset negative and sends you down a negative spiral, 2) is annoying, hurts and kills.

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You must understand that every decision you make to write a hurtful comment will have some kind of impact, which I’m sure you’re well aware of, but IF it’s a catastrophic effect, you are the one on trial. 

Believe in your own faith, stand strong by that which obviously involves having an opinion that align with that faith or belief but do not bring others down to make yours stronger!

ali and taite
(Credit: Brett Brogran for Who Magazine)
ali and taite
(Credit: Brett Brogan for Who Magazine)

Be kind and you’ll be in a kinder world, be nice and you’ll be in a nicer world. If you’re hurting, reach out and ask for help because the human race wants to help.

All my love, help, kindness, understanding & concern,

Ali. xo

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