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Ah, crushes. You spend your nights dreaming about them. When you see them, you get butterflies in your stomach. You’re happy when they’re around, and you’d do anything to spend more time with them.
But when you really like someone, the thought of admitting your feelings can be really scary. What if they don’t like you back? What if you’ve made it awkward, and now you can’t even be friends?
These are all real and valid fears, but telling someone you like them can also have its rewards. After all, admitting you’re interested is the first step towards a first date!
If you like someone and you’re not sure what to do next, here’s how to tell a guy you like him (or girl – whatever floats your boat).
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Timing Is Everything: When You Should Confess
The first thing you need to decide is whether or not you’re ready to share your feelings. Think about why you like them in the first place. Is this just a fleeting infatuation or are you guys actually quite compatible? Do you have a crush on them because you actually know them or because you’ve built up an idea of them in your head?
Another thing you need to ask yourself before you confess is whether or not it’s possible that they could return your feelings. If your crush barely talks to you or seems a little distant when you do interact, then confessing might not be worth your energy.
But if they make the effort to spend time with you, laugh at your jokes, and remember the little things about you, then those could be the signs you’re looking for!
How To Tell Someone You Like Them
Once you’ve decided that it’s go-time, the next thing you need to decide is how to tell your crush you like them. There are generally two ways to go about it: in person or over text.
Confessing your feelings face-to-face is nerve-wracking when you like someone, but it’s also the best way to do it. It will feel more meaningful, and you’ll get plus points for actually working up the confidence to do it. You’ll also be able to gauge their reaction better.
But if you’re really too shy to do it in person, you could also do it in a text. Just remember that this should be your absolute last resort.
Your Step-By-Step Guide To Confessing Your Crush
1. Decide The Time And Place
If you’ve decided to tell your crush, you should make your move as soon as possible. Otherwise, you’ll end up overthinking it and maybe not even do it at all. If it helps, set a deadline for yourself, and commit to it.
Choose a time when you’re both free and don’t have to rush anywhere. Also, be sure to avoid busy and high-stress moments, like right before a big test.
When you confess, it should be in private, a.k.a. just between the two of you. Pick a place where you’re both comfortable, like your favourite coffee shop or at a park.
2. Stay Calm And Confident
Being confident will assure your crush that your feelings are sincere, and it will also make things a lot less awkward. Before you meet up with the person you like, take a few moments to breathe and calm yourself down. Don’t let your nerves get the best of you, and you’ll get through it like a champ.
3. Ease It Into The Conversation
Even though it feels like your heart is bursting out of your chest, you don’t need to make a huge deal out of confessing your feelings. You don’t need any grand gestures of love; just start off with a normal conversation about your day and work it in naturally from there.
4. Do Not Pressure Them!
When you confess to your crush, it should be about getting your feelings out – not expecting something in return. Don’t pressure them into responding right away and give them time to think about what you’ve just said. Don’t ask if they like you back, allow them to react when and how they need to.
Things To Say
You don’t have to spend days thinking about sweet things to say – keeping it simple is the best approach! Say what you mean, mean what you say, and keep it straightforward. Here are some of the things you can say to express your feelings:
- “I like you.”
- “I have fun with you and I’d like to ask you out.”
- “You’re an awesome person, and I want to go on a date with you.”
- “This may or may not come as a surprise, but I’m into you.”
- “I don’t know if you feel the same way, but I just wanted to share that I’m interested in you.”
- “If you’re interested, maybe we can go out for dinner/drinks/a movie sometime.”
You should also keep in mind what NOT to say. Don’t use this time to declare your undying love or to goad them into revealing their feelings. That will just put them on the spot and make it awkward for everyone involved.
How To SHOW A Guy You Like Him
Sometimes, you just can’t find the words. If you’re not ready to tell them how you feel, you can still show them. Below are cute ways to signal “I like you” to your crush.
- Offer to do favours for them.
- Touch them (non-invasively!) on the arm or leg when talking to them.
- Learn about the things they’re interested, whether it’s music, sports, or something else.
- Smile, make eye contact, and say their name a lot during conversation.
- Make or buy little gifts to show them that you’re thinking about them.
Conclusion
The most important thing you can do when confessing to your crush is: just relax. Even if they don’t like you back, it’s not the end of the world. And if they do return your feelings, congratulations – start prepping for your first date!
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